Whether your boo is away for college, or work takes you to different places, a long distance relationship is usually not something you go searching for.
Once upon a time I met a handsome, charming prince, I mean, professional baseball player. When we began dating, in the back of my mind I knew he would eventually have to leave home to go play baseball. While I knew this would present some challenges, I decided to stick around and peruse the relationship.
This is now our second season doing the “long distance thing” and yes, while most people tend to focus on the negatives of long distance relationships, they also bring about many positives.
Because you are so far away from each other, open and honest communication is key. When you are in a long distance relationship you have to rely on words to keep building on your relationship. Personally, I get so excited to share every little thing with Stephen and talk about our day. Most of our conversations are either playful and entertaining or deep and meaningful. Because our relationship went from traditional to long distance very early on, I feel that it has helped us get to know each other on a different level. Being away from each other forces you to talk about how you are feeling and learn to communicate as a means to resolve issues.
Being away from the person you love is not easy, however trusting each other makes it a lot more bearable. Sometimes, our imagination can get the best of us, especially when your boyfriend or girlfriend is out having fun with their friends or teammates. Jealousy can easily take over. Being in a long distance relationship forces you to speak to your partner about your insecurities and work on building trust together. And it goes both ways, you can prove to your loved one that you are trustworthy as well. Building on this trust helps you create an unbreakable bond, and a feeling that is priceless.
Creating Memorable Moments
Seeing each other less often really helps you appreciate the time that you DO share together! Whether you’re running errands, sitting on the couch watching a movie that you’ve seen ten times, or going out on a romantic dinner date, each moment feels special because you are finally together. This also makes you work hard towards making each day together a little more special.
When I travel to visit Stephen during season, I notice how he goes out of his way to show me the nice restaurants and fun spots in town. Being together becomes a vacation. Long distance allows both people in the relationship learn how to appreciate each other and value each other’s time.
Pursue Your Passions
While I would rather fill up my free time being with my boyfriend, since that is not always an option being in a long distance relationship I have more time to focus on my passions. As a hardworking regional marketing manager, I am able to travel, visit accounts and attend events without feeling guilty that I am taking time away from being with Stephen.
The spare time can allow you to focus on finding hobbies or passions that help you feel fulfilled outside of a relationship. This can help you become a more well-rounded, and happier person and someone your partner can admire.
Don’t get me wrong, long distance relationships are hard. You can feel very lonely at times and feel like you’re missing out, but at the end of the day, if the person you’re in the relationship with is worth it, then committing to a long distance relationship is totally worth it!
Long distance relationships require hard work at times, but as the saying goes, most things in life worth having require hard work. Being apart from each other not only tests your commitment to being together, but also makes you realize how much you truly do want to be together. And once you’re both committed, surviving long distance helps your relationship survive most other challenges as well. You become a stronger unit overall.
Being apart does not have to be the make or break to a relationship. In fact, it could enhance a relationship. You learn to treasure small moments and value the commitment you make to loving each other.